I am a human-in-progress. I am not any one thing, but a number of factors subject to shift according to changes that occur in my internal and external environment. Being “in-progress” does not certify me as schizophrenic; instead, it confirms that I do not know everything; I am growing and consciously applying lessons learned to present experiences; I am an amalgam of many small pieces. Accepting that I am “in-progress” is liberating because it allows me to express patience with myself when I do not meet my own expectations and when I discover discomforting aspects of my character. Also, embracing my development is a great way to resist guilt and long relapses into old habits that do not serve me well. Best of all, “in-progress” status hikes the interest level of getting to know myself. When I interact with others and am conscious of being in development, social interaction is as fun as playing a challenging game. I connect thoughts to reactions, then consider whether I recognize that part of myself and if I want to keep or alter it.
Still, living “in-progress” is challenging. It requires that I be in-tune and accepting of the fact that other humans and life shifts, as well. Since writing my last post I have endured experiences that emphasize that my best self is still installing and that it might take a while to complete. For example, while dining with associates, it took everything in me not to punch a guy in the throat each time that he loudly sucked out food particles stuck in between his teeth and slurped his tea. My internal response to interactions with various Egyptians who refuse to take responsibility for their actions and my thoughts about a person who expected to influence me despite his failure to display the intellectual, behavioral, and psychological characteristics required of a leader revealed a conservative and brutally judgmental side of me. I viewed the people involved in these experiences (excluding myself) as unworthy of respect, lazy, and a threat and I refused to recognize their “in-progress” status. My violent thoughts and judgments did not match my ideal self and prove that “ultimate me” is still downloading.
During this life you and I will advance and regress. Perhaps the growth process becomes more pleasurable when we focus less on time and failed expectations and more on accepting ourselves when we err and on embracing our connection to the intangibly tangible divine change churning before, above, beneath, within, and between us. The latter appears abstract, but progress simply consists of seconds, thoughts, experiences, and conflicts. If each moment is as important as the result and if every moment contains a beginning and end, then at the close of every part of process blooms our latest and greatest self.
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